Wednesday, 28 March 2012

More odd people, plus a date!

There are many, many odd people on online dating sites. Or at least there are on the one I'm on. One, for instance, I had a good conversation going with, but then he said he was going away and his membership was going to expire, so that was the end of that. But then this week he reappeared, and said 'Hi, I'm back'. So I replied with 'Hi', because I didn't know what to say. I then got three or four messages from him apologising for contacting me again as I clearly wasn't interested. Apparently he knew I wasn't interested because I 'disappeared'. But I didn't disappear, he did, due to him going away and his membership expiring. He then apologised for coming across like a freak. I'm not sure what to make of him now.

But anyway, I've set up another date with someone else. But now I have an issue of what to wear. Last date was fine, as we went round a museum, so jeans and a top were good for that. But what does one wear on a dinner date? It's not an especially posh place, I think, so will smart jeans and a top do for that too? Help please!

Monday, 19 March 2012

You know I'm under no obligation to reply to you, right?

Over the weekend, three whole people from the dating website messaged me to moan that I hadn't messaged them.

Person one was the hobbit mentioned previously in this blog.

Person two first showed me his photo and asked to see mine. I had a glance at his profile and quite liked his piccy, so showed him my photo. He then sent me a lovely long message, and I was about to reply when I saw he lived miles and miles away and was a veggie. I live in my house and am not a veggie. This was clearly never going to work. So I didn't reply. Then I get a message from him, saying that he can see I'm online and that I've read his message, and asking why I haven't replied. Stalker, much? So I replied telling him that a veggie that lives far far away is not what I'm looking for, and he thanked me for having the decency to reply to that message at least.

Urm... hang on. This is a dating website where people message people all the time. I'm under no obligation to reply to you if I don't like what I see, if I change my mind about you, if I'm not in the mood, or if I just can't be bothered. I've sent people messages that haven't been replied to before, and when you don't get a reply you just think 'Meh, well, he's obviously found someone he prefers, or he's gone off me, either way it's fine'. Sending moany needy messages asking why the object of your stalking hasn't replied isn't the way to find true love, I reckon.

And then there's person three. We'd sent each other a couple of messages, but then I went off him a bit. He said 'You didn't reply to my last message, was it something I said?'. As the answer was, quite honestly, 'Urm... yeah...' I didn't reply.

Ooh! Also! I got a message from someone calling himself handsome. He's not.

Sunday, 18 March 2012


Have I set a precedent? Do I need to start each post with 'So'?

No! I shan't! This stops now! So there :-)

So people should choose their username carefully...

Here's the thing. Your username is the first thing I see when I look at your profile or a message from you. So choose it carefully.

For instance, if your username is mriluvu or onefunfellow4u, you're coming on a bit strong right from the start. If your name is mrhandsome then you're obviously up yourself. If your name is misterthriller, then goodness knows what you're thinking. And as for sugarstickie23, well, 'nuff said really.

Seriously, guys, if you want me (or anyone else really) to message you, or reply to your messages, pick a username that actually, honestly, describes you, like SportyGuy or MrBlonde, or use your first name in some way, like danlondon or northernharry. Try to be funny in your username and it'll probably backfire. Unless you pick 'reallycoolusername'... I messaged that one just because of the name...

Friday, 16 March 2012

So... Stop messaging me...

Here's the deal. If you send me a message and I think you're too old, or too weird, or too dull, or that you look like a hobbit, my way of telling you I'm not interested is to not reply. Take the hint. Don't message me again telling me you've shown me your photo. I know you've shown me your photo. That's how I know you look like a hobbit. I don't want to date someone who looks like a hobbit.

That is all.

Sunday, 11 March 2012

So I went on a date...

So I went on a date. It was a nice date. Problem is, it was a nice date because of where we went and what we did, not who I went with. We went round a museum - what's not to like there? And then we went to a pub. Again, what's not to like?

Issue is though, the guy was just... meh. Not ugly, but not attractive to me in the slightest. Couldn't imagine kissing him. Definitely couldn't imagine doing anything else with him. So it's a non-starter relationship-wise. So... I didn't message him afterwards. And then when he sent me a message I didn't reply. Am I a bad person?